Saturday, September 1, 2012

why is M/M so appealing?

I mentioned how attractive the idea of men is together to some friends last night, during a night of both serious and ridiculous sex discussion (remind me to tell you about Spiderman Monkeyface). The man and woman I was talking to were surprised at this, didn't agree - another friend came back into the room and said, aw, YEAH, that's so hot. She said the ultimate indulgence would be getting to sleep with two bi men. I revealed how popular M/M twislash fic is with mom writers and they were startled.

The thing is, the guy I was talking to wanted to know why, what it is about it that's exciting. I found it really hard to put into words.

Myself and the other enthusiast came up with the idea that it's maybe the sight of seeing two men doing exactly what they want, as they want it, with less compromise than a man and a woman make. Or that M/F porn is always about the male viewers' image and idea of what they want in a woman/what the woman wants, where M/M is made by men for men. Though the erotica is often by women for women, so I dunno.

What's so good about stubble on stubble?

I suppose for me, there's still something slightly transgressive about it. Two men defying cultural morées to get exactly what they want - there's something so hot about that. In the same way threesomes are deliciously ... what's the word? Licentious? People doing something because it's good. Because they want it.

And then there's the contrast of lack of contrast - hard faces, hard bodies, mirror images. Perhaps there's something beautifully narcissistic about same-sex sex.

It's more than all this though. But I can't really put it into words. I have no idea why. I know a lot of women out there know exactly what it is and write it beautifully, so I'm not worried.


Craig Sorensen said...

If you asked the fellow what was so hot about F/F to a guy, maybe he'd see it from the other side. I think most guys find F/F to be sext, but are too busy being "manly" to get M/M.

I find it kind of funny, people who say "I don't get" a certain sexual practice. I mean, you may not like the taste and texture of oysters, but if you're a person who loves food, is it not sufficient to find that middle ground and say, "I know what it is to eat something that I love?"

Craig Sorensen said...

I meant sexy, not "sext", although some might enjoy being sext.

I mean, I'd never understand that but...


Anonymous said...

lol :)

You know sexting is sex-texting, right?

I can understand men not getting M/M (F/F doesn't do a huge amount for me,really) but I don't understand women not getting it.